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Ten
Commandments of Female Arousal
- Taking care of her emotions always comes
before taking care of the motion.
- Nothing paves the way to sexual touching
faster than non-sexual touching.
- The more time you spend on arousal, the
faster you'll get her where you want to take her. Also, the longer the
action, the stronger the reaction. Women like a slow and steady build
up. The most memorable experiences are those where somebody took their
time. It is no accident that women's genitals are mysteriously hidden,
because they need the time it takes to properly attend to them. For her,
the journey is at least as important as reaching the final destination.
- What you do for her is at least as
important as who you are. Make her feel special to you. Hear her out,
without trying to "fix" her. Surprise her for no reason. Appreciate all
that she is and all that she does.
- Women love fantasies every bit as much
as men do – look at the multi billion dollar romance and erotica
industry they support. They just fantasize in different ways. As with
sex, they need a proper build up. Learn her way, introduce your request
accordingly, and she'll be game. We all want to buy, we just don't want
to be sold.
- Women love properly performed oral sex
at least as much as men do. Learn her anatomy. Direct stimulation to her
clitoral head (which by the way is only the tip of the iceberg) might be
too intense, especially at first. As well, her clitoris and G-spot
(about three inches inside of her vagina on the tummy side) are supplied
by a different nerve (pudendal), than her vagina (pelvic) – the former
more sensitive and thereby responsible for stronger orgasms. Many women
will only orgasm when you stimulate the areas excited by the pudendal
nerve. Knowing this, appreciate the fact that 90% of these areas are
hidden and therefore require more than just clitoral head stimulation.
- If you're going to stimulate her
manually, make sure your hands are washed (minuscule amounts of sweat
and oily secretions can cause irritations), your fingernails are neatly
clipped (should feel smooth to your gums), and palms don't feel rough.
- Some women love breast stimulation,
others do not. If your lady loves it, treat her breasts (particularly
her nipples) as "on buttons" and indulge them at least as feverishly
through the final stages as you would through the initial stages. As
well, know that with excitement most women will need greater and greater
intensity of stimulation (there and elsewhere). Those who are not breast
women will appreciate it if you do other things with your hands and
mouth.
- Women's skin is thinner and their sense
of smell stronger. So be gentle with her skin, clean and good smelling
with your own.
- No two women are alike. If it isn't
working, move onto something else. Trying harder, faster, longer is as
ridiculous as speaking louder to someone who doesn't understand your
language. She knows her body language better than anyone else, stop and
ask her for directions. And if she's too shy, observe her and the
push-pull rule. If she pushes the body part being stimulated right into
you, she wants more, if she pulls away, she doesn't. And if she wants
it, stay put. Women love even a clumsy effort and will shift around to
make you work on bull's eye. If she shifts, follow her lead, don't
readjust because of where you think you should focus. If you had it
right the first time she wouldn't have shifted. Women often complain
that just as the feeling gets good, the good get going elsewhere.
Whatever you do, make it special. Treat
each experience as exceptional as your first and it will become one.
Rebecca Rosenblat (aka Dr. Date), sex therapist/advice
columnist/published author is Toronto's hottest offering to the
relationship and sexuality scene. Known for her to-the-point teaching and
entertaining delivery, Rebecca gives her audiences what they crave,
through her books, seminars, interviews, and advice
columns. http://www.drdating.com/
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