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Dating Tips - Singles tips -
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The Ten
Commandments of Dating
- Thou shalt place no other distractions
before your date. Stay completely focused on him/her, maintaining eye
contact at all times, blocking out all else.
- Thou shalt mimic his/her every subtle
gesture to subliminally create a comfort level.
- Thou shalt not intrude into intensely
private territory (theirs or yours), past present or future.
- Thou shalt not give unsolicited advice, nag,
or criticize.
- Thou shalt listen (intently) before talking.
One never learned a whole lot by talking.
- Thou shalt not interrupt, cut off, or change
topics that mean a lot to your date but you find boring. Give him/her
the courtesy to finish. It will tell you a lot more about them than the
traditional direct, obvious, and often times threatening line of
questioning.
- Thou shalt bring out the best in each other,
through a positive presence, genuine compliments (known for their
ten-fold return whenever given), and masterful flirting which validates
us in delicious ways. This is not the place to win through competition.
Competing (as in - my story, accomplishment, or knowledge is better than
yours) by its very nature leads us into looking for ways to view the
other party as less than ourselves, yet we often use it foolishly to
impress.
- Thou shalt never put down or be hurtful to
your date - jokingly or otherwise - observing the golden rule of
treating as you'd like to be treated.
- Remember, when talking about others, if you
can't say something good, don't say anything at all. Both you and your
date will like you better because of it. As well, your date won't have
to worry about exposing their vulnerable selves to you, only to be
talked down behind their back.
- As you are entitled to your opinions, let
your date be entitled to theirs. Respect who they are, what they're
about, and their space.
Rebecca Rosenblat (aka Dr. Date), sex
therapist/advice columnist/published author is Toronto's hottest offering
to the relationship and sexuality scene. Known for her to-the-point
teaching and entertaining delivery, Rebecca gives her audiences what they
crave, through her books, seminars, interviews, and advice
columns. http://www.DrDating.com
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